Retiring?

You know, I used to blog daily. The entries were long. They were rant-terrific. They were current, featured lots of swearing, and generally I didn’t actually care who read what I wrote.

Then a bad thing happened, and I wrote something kind of mean about someone in my life, they read it, there was drama, and I learned to not write anything that I wouldn’t be okay with my parents reading. I rarely wrote things about people in my life without their knowledge (and often, participation).

Then along came Kale and it was a whole other world. I became a “mommy blogger” (gag) and started writing only updates that had to do with whatever milestone Kale had surpassed. I wrote every couple of days, because I was on mat leave, and I was at home, and Kale napped twice a day.

Then my mat leave ended. I stopped having quite so much free time. Kale’s napping time became a race to get as much work done as humanly possible. I started having no time in the evenings.

Now, I write maybe once a week. I write about things we’ve done, how my general mood is, or what I’m into. I write product reviews. I talk about our house a lot. I post pictures. I think the only person who actually is interested in every single thing I post is Mom. (hi Mom!)

This isn’t a post where I am seeking all your approval and encouragement and love (but hey – if you like what I write, please tell me all the same). But these days I spend a lot of time using Twitter for my mental stream rather than this blog. It takes less effort, less energy, and can capture little snippets so much easier. It’s started to creep into my consciousness that maybe the Arbolog is on it’s way to being abandoned. Not right away, I don’t think.

I never started blogging hoping to create a community or a large readership or aspiring to be a blogger who didn’t have to work. I’m not that opinionated or extroverted or interesting.

It was always something for me to do, and it became something I enjoyed. Now, well, I still enjoy it, which is why I’m not walking away. But now, I read what I’ve written and I kind of think “Hmm, I can’t believe I used up a portion of my precious time to write THAT.”

What do you think?

8 years ago

10 Comments

  1. You are right I do enjoy it. It kind of keeps me in the loop as to how things in your life and family are going. And although you are across the great pond it makes me feel like I am more involved in your families life. (Not the in your face kind like some parents do but from a distance)If you drop it I will certainly miss it and I do enjoy your writing as well. But if it is to be it is to be. It’s not like we don’t talk on the phone. Maybe consider a continuation of some parts of it every few months or so or I know your life is busy but honestly I am not the only one who reads it. I hope you keep it up be it slimmed down but I get the busy life. I really do. It gives me a smile and a chuckle and it does make me think about many things. But you have to do what you have to do.

  2. I check/read it (almost) daily – I don’t like RSS feeders. 😉

    However, I get the busy. I, too, had a blog that I fairly recently relinquished for many of the same reasons.

  3. As long as I have known you, you have loved to write. If you still find a joy in writing the blog, continue. It you don’t, maybe it is time to let it go. That being said, I do truly enjoy reading your views. Living across a continent, it is nice to have insight into what in going on in a friends life.

  4. Hi Jen,
    Yes, I am one of your readers as well. You have a knack for writing, and I find your thoughts interesting and transparent. I can certainly understand why you are thinking about the time it takes, so if you quit, you quit – life goes on. Just thought I would let you know that there is another reader out there is cyberland,and across the pond as well.
    MamaZee

  5. Please don’t quit! I love your blog. Even if it’s a short and simple paragraph telling us your general mood, I’d still enjoy reading. I hate, hate, hate Twitter, though. It makes my ADD-brain reel. 🙂

  6. I’ve been reading you since…. well over a decade now. Taking breaks is part of it. I stopped for a few years, then started up again.

    I’m sure your readers will respect whatever you decide.

    Following you on twitter is nice, but I like the full description with foot notes of sarcasm to read from time to time.

  7. I check in pretty regularly (even when I’m not writing much myself…see the link!). When it stops being useful for you, take a break, you can always come back to it. Having said that, I’d miss reading you if you were taking a break 🙂

  8. Hey you! I love the blog cause it keeps me ‘in touch’ with what’s goin on with you. However, I TOTALLY get that you have to use time wisely.
    Do what cha gotta do, baby!
    XOXO

  9. You could always try quitting twitter for a week or two and see what happens to your brain. It’s interesting, when I did it, I kept thinking in these snappy soundbites, it took my brain a while to get back to thinking about things in a longer, paragraph form.

    I know exactly what you’re saying though. Especially with the stay at home gig I’m doing. Nothing is new. I have nothing. But there’s that blog, staring at me, willing me to write something.

    I don’t know if we ever get to go back to the pre-kid luxury of writing 8 page rants about politics/human nature/whatever. Or if we should just say so long to that and laugh at our archives and embrace the scattered nature of the present.

    No answers. Sorry.

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